this is exactly how I feel about gay marriage

(and btw, I think that this image is going to be the iconic image and the one that is in textbooks in the future whenever somebody references the struggle for gay marriage to become legal)

The Art of Marriage Maintenance

I was reading this article in the NY Times a few days ago about rich psychiatrists and their crazy-loaded patients, and how sometimes when therapists have rich clients they fall into the trap of wanting to be their friend b/c (apparently) everybody loves rich people, but they interviewed this one psychiatrist dr. karasu who totally knew his shit and was amazing so I googled him and he is awesome and wrote a book w/ his psychiatrist wife called “The Art of Marriage Maintenance.”



Usually “the art of _____ maintenance” books bore me (I’m talking to you motorcycle maintenance), but I will also be getting this book from the library. I think it is important to put work into a marriage (not that it should be hard work, but I don’t think you can just laissez-faire it till the end), so I am excited to read this.

The only thing that I know I already disagree w/ in the book (from a comment/review on amazon) is I guess there is a chapter where they talk about how you shouldn’t share a bathroom w/ your partner, or sometimes even sleep in different beds b/c then you stop seeing each other as sexual beings or something, and I deff don’t agree w/ that. I mean first of all, what if you’re not rich enough to have two bathrooms/two bedrooms, but second of all, sex (like everything else) comes and goes in waves, and I only think you should be worried if you haven’t boned in a couple months or something. Plus seeing each other as sexual beings does not necessitate sex. I think a good make-out sesh a few times a week can keep you both seeing each other as sexual beings. I think I just used “sexual beings” too much. Anyways, I will definitely be checking this shit outttt